Everyone grieves differently and there is no one right way to do it. Here are a few suggestions to help you support yourself during this difficult time.
Griffin Cares is here to help you through the raw early days of grief by providing comfort and guidance from other loss parents who truly understand what it feels like to be in such a dark place. Our mission is to share information and inspiration that has helped others get through their tough times to help you deal with yours.
When you are grieving, it is easy to feel overwhelmed by too much information. We invite you to explore the ideas and resources provided below at a pace that feels right to you. Our site and our programs are here for you whenever you are ready.
Baby loss does not diminish or erase the changes your body went through during pregnancy and delivery. Experiencing physical postpartum symptoms can be a reminder of your loss and add to your grief. It is important to remember that your body needs time and care to heal just as it would following any pregnancy and birth.
Be sure to reach out to your OBGYN or primary care physician with any concerns regarding your physical recovery. Grief can be physically demanding so taking good care of your body and addressing your physical health is an important first step in the process.
Grief is the natural emotion we feel when we lose someone we love; grieving the loss of your very loved child is especially painful and brings up feelings of injustice. It makes perfect sense to feel devastated, sad, overwhelmed, confused, and angry following your loss.
However, if you are finding that your grief feels like too much to bear, or if you would like a safe space to be able to process your feelings, you may benefit from support from a mental health professional. While therapy and/or medication will not take away your grief, they can equip you with tools to help you through this incredibly difficult time.
Baby loss is often unexpected, and most parents are not prepared for the grief that follows. Birthing parents and partners who experience multiple losses may face new issues and feelings that compound their grief. When you are grieving, it can be hard to know how to deal with your emotions. A self-care “tool kit” is simply a collection of things you can do to support yourself after your loss.
Attending a peer support group, taking with a mentor, reading books about grief, following baby loss groups on social media, spending time with a pet, or just sitting on the couch and giving yourself some space to heal are all ways people gain strength after a pregnancy or infant loss. Discovering what strategies are most helpful to you and assembling your own “tool kit” is part of your personal grief journey.
During your pregnancy, you likely started receiving mail, email, and ads from baby-related companies. Unfortunately, these communications will continue after your baby has died.
Unexpected reminders of your loss can be triggering so it may be helpful to take steps to reduce these intrusions. Dealing with unwanted emails and ads can be upsetting or frustrating so consider asking a friend or family member for help with this task.
Register your baby’s name on the Deceased Do Not Contact List from The Association of National Advertisers (ANA).
Go to My Ad Center and select Customize Ads, then click on Sensitive to turn off the Pregnancy and parenting toggle.
In your profile menu, go to Settings and Privacy and select Settings, then Ad Preferences (on web, select Ads first). Under Ad Topics, use the search bar to enter topics you don’t want to see such as Pregnancy & Childbirth, Children & Parenting, and assorted categories under the keyword Baby. Select topics one at a time and choose Show less ads about this topic.
On your profile page, use the Three Horizontal Lines icon on the top right to go to Settings, then Ads, then Ad Topics. Use the search bar to enter topics you don’t want to see such as Pregnancy & Childbirth and Children & Parenting and select Show less ads about this topic.
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